Truth and Love

A year or so ago i had a strong vision during a drum journey. There was an old white man lying down who was dying. He was full of tension that i knew intuitively was a result of his own ‘meanness’, how his ego and stories had driven him to hold on tightly even to his own body. I looked up and there were some indigenous medicine people that gave me some liquid to give him, not to cure him but to soothe the dying process. I understood this is what i am here to do.

The vision has puzzled me ever since. I am drawn to supporting groups and communities to create new systems, to move from hierarchy to collaborative ways of working together. I have been part of protests and campaigns, naming injustice and calling in what i see, but it doesn’t feel core to my work. Finally today, the pieces have slotted into place and this mission is clear.

I want to be part of dismantling white supremacy, patriarchy and the binary gender system. And i want to do it in a way that soothes the dying process, makes letting go easier and less painful. I want to find a way that is from love and not from more self criticism.

Dismantling injustice with love

I am totally committed to seeing through social constructs of race and the illusion of white supremacy, and dismantling systems of oppression. I want to live in a post racist world, where we see each other for our potential, where we welcome people who have been forcibly displaced, and where people who are gender nonconforming interact with systems that are designed for their reality too*. I want us to see through our unconscious bias and co-create conditions and systems where we can all thrive and fulfil our potential.

I identify as white and female, and I see that often in spaces i am in, our attempts to do this often look like more self monitoring, more self criticism, more right and wrong, more effort and tension. We try to keep track of not being racist, not playing out white fragility, not using the wrong pronouns, not asking when we should be doing the work, not taking up too much space. I feel in myself and see in others how trying to live from a place of constantly falling short of some ideal cuts us off from flow, from who we really are, from our life force, and from the self love and wholeness that we all long to feel deep down.

Finding another way

I want us to find a way where we can undo the violent separation of these systems, see what is really true, and do it in a way that is kinder, more forgiving and connected to our hearts.

I want us to find a way that is easier on our nervous systems. I want us to feel more love not less.

I want us to become anti racism without more guilt, blame and shame. I want us to take responsibility and at the same time not believe it is ‘our fault’, to know we were socialised into a racist society and make different conscious choices naturally because at a fundamental level we are interconnected, one.

There is fear that in hearing this people might have a story that i am not committed, that i am not willing to see, not willing to go into the pain, not willing to change, that i will fall back to the dominant paradigm, that i don’t really care. It is a story i have told myself too.

There is fear that people might have a story that i think i am the only one saying this, when there are many amazing people doing amazing anti racist work with love. I have also experienced great love and wisdom in spaces led by black people, and i wonder if this is another idea of whiteness we are unconsciously playing out? (Spending time with brap and others doing this work for 3 days recently inspired this thinking.)

So often it feels as though a critical mind is the sharp knife many of us are trying to use to do this healing work. It can also make this work less accessible to some of us who find lots of concepts hard to process, especially when also dealing with trauma, marginalisation or lack of access to resources.

What now?

I want to find ways to do the work with more empathy, understanding, self acceptance and compassion that i know can heal separation, alongside the strength and courage and willingness to sit in the fire that it takes to do this work.

I want people alongside that can both challenge and support me, call in what i don’t see and meet me with love and gentleness, and i want to do that for and with others too.

I want to learn from people who are finding ways to do this work that is simple and accessible enough for people with a less conceptual kind of wisdom to understand and embrace.

I want to integrate this wisdom and these practices throughout my life and work, and share it with others.

For us to have a chance at co-creating a more just, equitable, caring and sustainable world, it feels vital.

I am more committed than ever, as many of us are. I would love to know your experiences and where you see this happening, to receive your support and challenge with equal gratitude.

In solidarity and humility x


I intend to start a list of relevant resources/links here as i find them or people share with me – i hope that is useful…

*NB: I acknowledge many other forms of systemic oppression and marginalisation, and this is where my heart and attention is drawn at this time in my life for various reasons (circumstantial and unknown).

NVC for liberation

This post is inspired by and offers a brief overview of Miki Kashtan’s blog on ‘Nonviolent Communication for Liberation – flow, mobilisation and emergency.’

Key themes:

  • Liberation and healing are related and distinct
  • Empathic support is needed and not sufficient for liberation
  • Patriarchal conditioning affects all of us, creating a foundation of scarcity in which we live and function in separation and experience persistent powerlessness
  • Liberation is both internal and external, it needs to include liberation from all forms of social oppression, including in particular the core patriarchal structures
  • Every person can reach toward personal liberation and every person can have a role in moving the world toward collective liberation
  • Fully integrating NVC and adopting it as a way of living is inconsistent with capitalism, with either/or thinking, and with scarcity, separation, and powerlessness, all of which are at the root of all patriarchal societies
  • It is exceedingly difficult to integrate NVC all the way into our being as an individual living in such societies
  • To counter the immense societal and inner pressure we can create communities that co-hold the move towards liberation
  • One way of understanding what liberation means is that we reach the capacity to choose how to respond to life instead of reacting to it, more and more of the time

Flow, emergency and mobilisation

  • Flow is the natural state of any living organism
  • Emergency is what happens when we perceive a threat to our survival, which then activates the fight, flight, freeze system in order to rapidly react to what’s happened
  • Mobilisation is any state in which we pull together resources to attend to the purpose at hand
  • When we are in trust in the flow of life, and emergencies happen at a rate that we can bounce back from, we can thrive
  • When we are within the flow of life, we mobilise and make complex decisions by connecting to needs
  • We learn to apply rules and norms without engaging in relationship, without attending to anyone’s needs or preferences, and without complex considerations
  • Under conditions of chronic multigenerational trauma and living within separation, we are more likely to interpret situations as a threat to survival than I imagine we were before patriarchy

What NVC can contribute

  • NVC can bring flow by reducing the thoughts that interfere with being able to trust our preferences enough to follow them – increasing self-acceptance, releasing tension and judgements, and increasing willingness to listen inwards.
  • Gaining fluency in translating judgements and in accessing needs can support us in reorienting to actual needs of all concerned
  • NVC can help us move from either/or win/lose thinking to collaboration and trust
  • NVC supports integration by giving us the capacity to be with our feelings without getting flooded, which increases the chances that we will respond to difficult situations using the tend-and-befriend pathway and without activating the fight-flight-freeze pathway
  • NVC can increase our capacity to disentangle observations from interpretations and, in doing so, to reduce the frequency with which we will interpret what is happening as a threat
  • If we enter conditions of emergency with an integrated capacity to see needs, we can more quickly get to the heart of the matter so resources can accurately flow to needs
  • If we recognize that the primary reason why the range of our options is so small stems from living under conditions of patriarchy, then we can find deeper capacity to choose to liberate ourselves from them
  • NVC supports liberation by helping us see how we have internalized them through patriarchal conditioning
  • NVC gives us more options for how to respond to life

If any of this sparks your interest, i really recommend reading the article.

I would love to know what you think.

Direct connection

This is one of the most profound, resonant and deep teachings i have ever heard.

Exactly what i needed in this moment, a story of what is happening in my own experience and blowing me away, summed up in 1 hour 11 minutes.

And knowing for each of us what we need to hear in the moment is different, so this will speak to who it speaks to and not all. Trust yourself, trust what you sense you need next moment to moment, always.

Here is just one part, as a taster, transposed for those who it might speak to and might not otherwise click the link…

The first step is to face the extremity of the crisis and stop having magical thinking about it, just to be brave enough to realise that we are now in the definitive crisis of our evolution region, and there is a global dark night, and it is exploding, and it does threaten our survival.

And you can’t not face that because, facing it I’ve found doesn’t necessarily drive you into paralysis and despair, it drives you into the deepest possible search for who you really are.

And that gets to the second point, believe the mystics – believe all of the mystics or all of the traditions who say with one voice – you are divine, and you’ve been given as an original blessing, divine consciousness, you’ve been blessed by that. And believe them and they said the whole point of being on the show is not just to read that and think oh, I’m divine, I’m divine, but to realise what that truly truly truly truly means.

Because if you do get anywhere near that realisation, you start dancing naked to Tina Turner around your place. I have done this, I’m afraid to say, because there are moments when you are so overwhelmed with gratitude and amazement at Being, through grace, the living Divine Child of the father, mother, that you can’t do anything else but take your clothes off and just say thank you, Lord! Whoever it is for you, be prepared for those moments of ecstasy!

The third thing is is that in order to realise this, you need to plunge into sacred practice, and the most powerful practice every evolutionary mistake, and this is true of all of the religion says is the simplest. I’m a great advocate of totally simple practice. And that is saying the name of God, by whatever name you worship the divine.

Whatever you believe in, adore the face that is turn to you of the Divine and say its name in the heart as often and wildly and temporally and rapturously as you can and you will discover what Kabir has when he says the name of God through age after age binds me directly to God. So by saying the name in the heart with reverence and passion, you discover over time that you’ll be taught directly the different stages of the mysterious unfolding of your true nature.

So that’s what needs to be done.

And there’s a fourth stage – realise something.

And I just tell a story here about the Dalai Lama. I was interviewing the Dalai Lama, on the day that he was going to win the Nobel Prize in Oslo. I was sent by Vogue or Elle I don’t remember which, a little pixie was sent to him to interview the Great Kahuna. You know, so I was sitting in this long oblong room in this hotel in Oslo, with the Dalai Lama alone, and I asked him absolutely everything on my mind, and he answers so beautifully and it was two hours, two hours with him. And at the end of this two hours, I couldn’t get out of the chair because I was so overwhelmed by his presence, because he’s the sweetest people but there’s this vast vast force of embodied love around him. And he came up to me and hoisted me up, and I was momentarily breast to breast with him. So I looked up at him and said, we’ll never be in this position again. What’s the meaning of life? And he roared with laughter. I mean, that Roar is still echoing in every cell of my being. And then he got very, very, very quiet and very strong. And he pointed at me. And he said…“The meaning of life is to EMBODY the transcendent.” And as he said it, this golden energy went up and down. So I was even more up by then, when he took my hand and he led me to the door and very tenderly said goodbye to me.

You cannot just realise your divine nature, you have to embody it. Bring it down.

Rumi says love flows down, so your heart mind opens to the transcendent but then your job is to unite that realisation with your mind so your mind becomes a servant, united with your heart so your heart becomes an organ of universal love. And then do the difficult, the wonderful work of uniting it with the cells of your body, so your body becomes God’s body, like His holiness – His body is clearly present to what he’s doing is reaching out, loving, loving, loving all the time. And that means action.

So the last part is to put what you are being given by the Divine that loves you so much into action – sacredly inspired action and service on behalf of the creation, on behalf of animals, on behalf of the poor, on behalf of the rich that are lost in ignorance and greed, on behalf of every single sentient being, tirelessly, relentlessly, with humour, with joy, with passion.

If you can combine those four stages, you won’t be spared suffering, my friends, you will go through a lot of suffering, but you will know what the suffering is asking of you – to go deeper into surrender, to go deeper into love, to go deeper into service.

And you will realise whatever happens to the world, that you are the Divine Child of the Father Mother dancing with them both on that burning dance floor, and a great joy will be in your life arising from the source of Joy itself that is the Divine.

If you get into the direct connection, you will be given the Wisdom you need stage by stage. The people you need will appear, the book you need will fall open at the pages you need, you hear the podcast that will open you, you see on TV somebody who gives you the peace that you’ve been waiting for, because the whole universe wants you to be born into your Empowered Human Divine Self.

And if you align with that there is so much grace heading your way, including the grace of our appalling crisis which should wake you the hell up to the complete sterility of any other solutions but this one.That’s a grace.”

Wow. I am left speechless. To experience this and then hear it here spoken, sent to me from a friend who knows nothing of where i am in my life. I am so incredibly grateful, and so in awe!

Dimensions of social change

Through a conversation with a good friend and collaborator reflecting on work we are doing in GM around homelessness, I realised a model had formed in my head around social change that turns out to be a mis-remembering / combination of two well known models! Yet somehow this seems to be supporting me to make sense of things I am seeing, and felt worth sharing.

Joanna Macy’s work includes the concept of ‘Three Dimensions of The Great Turning‘…

  • Actions to slow the damage to Earth and its beings
  • Analysis of structural causes and creation of structural alternatives
  • Shift in Consciousness

Alongside this, Saavedra and Paul Engler at the Ayni Institute developed ‘Social Movement Ecology‘…

  • Supporting personal transformation
  • Changing dominant institutions (split into three subsections)
  • Creating alternatives

In my imagined version, this had become what is shown below, with three types of external change, and in parallel supporting all of that is the personal ‘inner’ transformation happening within individuals and groups – not separate from but alongside and as an integral part of the systemic ‘external’ change…

  • Personal transformation
  • Systemic transformation
    • Resisting harm
    • Changing dominant institutions
    • Creating (& testing) alternatives

Each of us will be working in support of one or more of these dimensions. I see in some of the tensions and conflicts experienced in social movements and partnerships, some of what is happening is that we are seeing what we are doing within a different part of this map.

For some of us, often outside of institutions, we are thinking about creating alternatives to our current system, rather than changing (in less radical ways) what is there. For others of us within institutions, constrained by our roles that exist within systems that can feel outside of our power to change, we might be looking at the work as changing dominant institutions lens, and focus on what is possible within our given power.

Many individuals and projects will cross these lines, perhaps some of us hold a vision of a different world that organises based on very different principles (such as organising based on needs rather than deserve, as with nonviolent communication), but in our work role put that aside for what is realistic within the structures that exist.

The dying of the old

I had a vision a few months back, of the dying of the old system (represented by a gnarly yet frail white man), linking with ancient wisdom (represented by ancestors from earth based cultures), and being given guidance to soothe the dying of the old system so that the new could emerge (represented by a medicine that soothed in the dying process rather than intending to heal).

I wonder about some of the work we do in changing existing systems, whether we are keeping them going, rather than supporting them to die and make space for the new to emerge. It is hard to imagine that, with care for those who would be most affected in this transition.

Taking one example i am involved in…It does matter what services are offered to people experiencing homelessness. It does matter if less people have to love on the streets or in substandard accommodation. And maybe some of what we are doing is keeping the ‘homelessness system’ alive, even if in a slightly better form than before. And what we really want is to create systems where resources flow to meet needs, where there is community and a support system that actually works, and no-one has to experience homelessness in the first place.

I’d love to hear any reflection and any other models making sense to you, as we make sense of all of this, in the midst of transformation, the way forward emerging as we take each step.

In gratitude to Joanna Macy and The Work That Reconnects, the Greater Manchester Homelessness Action Network and many others past, present and future for the work you are doing to co-create a more beautiful world.

Organising foundations and structures

So many of us are looking for ways to work together that are collaborative, moving away from hierarchy and power over and force and ‘should’ (the legacy of Patriarchy), and towards sharing our gifts, responding to needs, staying within capacity and flow.

In so many places where these experiments are happening, I see beautiful things happening, but sadly also conflict and burnout and struggle. Without the structure of authority which is all most of us know, we need some other form of structures in place to support the co-creation and flow that we want to find. Without any structure, we inevitably will fall back to informal and invisible structures will develop over time, recreating the systems that we have been trying to avoid. (I recommend reading the classic essay ‘The Tyranny of Structurelessness‘ for more on this.)

It can be so tempting to skip over this step and focus on tasks that need to be done. I hear often ‘but we are all nice people, we will just keep talking’, and i love that, and also see often it is not enough. It is sad to see conflict, burnout, stress and tension coming in when the initial intentions of projects and energy people bring has felt so hopeful.

The way I support groups to organise is based on the work of several people/organisations whose work I value, most notably Miki Kashtan (Nonviolent Global Liberation) and Frédéric Laloux (Reinventing Organisations). The following is a brief overview of some of this learning, with links to follow if you want to know more. Please get in touch if you would like some support to work through this process with a group you are part of, or for support with existing conflict.


For new or existing groups, a starting point can be to looking for shared clarity on the foundations of what the organisation is and why it exists. This from Miki is the most precise and clear description of the key elements I’ve found…

  • Vision: where we’re heading – what we want to see in the world over time.
  • Purpose: why we do what we do – what inspires us to get up in the morning and do the work.
  • Mission: what we do – the nuts and bolts of action, including strategy, goals, objectives, and action steps.
  • Values: how we do what we do – what we orient towards to operate with integrity in service to our purpose.
  • Theory of Change: why we believe in what we do – the rationale for the mission as a way of accomplishing the purpose.

In addition to getting these clear, it is also super important that anyone involved has awareness and easy access to these principles, so that the framework can support everyone when confusion and conflicts arise. Within all of this we stay aware of willingness and capacity, our strengths and limitations, so that what we do is not asking anyone to stretch beyond what’s healthy for them.


From these shared foundations, we then look for the minimum organising structures to put in place so that we can get started. These can be lightweight and simple, or more complex, depending on the context. Again, Miki’s work and Reinventing Organisations guides us through finding the systems and structures we need to support us to align systems to purpose. Here are some of the key structures and questions to bring into the room…

  • Decision making: Who will make which decisions and how?
  • Information flow: How will we ensure information is accessible and transparent to everyone who might need it?
  • Resource flow: How will we generate and distribute resources?
  • Feedback system: How will we know what is and isn’t working for people?
  • Support system: How will people get support in a way that is within our capacity?
  • Conflict system: How will we respond when there is conflict?

There is often a mix in the group between people who want more structure and people who want less. This can be a cause of tension, but also a useful balance. A model i find helpful in thinking about this is ‘The Chaordic Path‘ – in the sweet spot between too much chaos and too much order is the chaordic, where there is flow and creativity, conditions for emergence.

“As we move between chaos and order, individually and collectively, we move through confusion and conflict toward clarity. We are all called to walk this path without judgement – some will feel more comfortable with chaos, others with order. Both are needed as, together, we walk the edge that is between these two toward something wholly new.”

Each group will need to find this place for themselves, creating just enough structure to support people to understand how they can contribute their creative ideas and energy in a way that supports the mission of the group.

Please get in touch if you have feedback, questions or are interested to find out more.

Recommended Resources

Liberating structures

I’ve loved stumbling across ‘liberating structures’ – a fantastic menu of tools and practices for many-to-many communication.

“Liberating Structures are easy-to-learn microstructures that enhance relational coordination and trust. They quickly foster lively participation in groups of any size, making it possible to truly include and unleash everyone.”

Beyond conventional structures of presentations, managed discussions, open discussions, status reports and brainstorm sessions, there is a menu of structures freely available to use (ordered simplest to learn first at the top left), and there is also a ‘matching matrix‘ to help match structures to goals.

One simple example I enjoyed recently was using a set of starter questions to build trust and engagement – so simple and so effective…

  • What first inspired me in my work is…
  • Something we must learn to live with is…
  • A bold idea I recommend is…
  • What I find challenging in our current situation is…
  • Something we should stop doing is…
  • A courageous conversation we are not having is…
  • A question that is emerging for me is…

Another brilliant tool for exposing and strategising when there appears to be conflicting needs is to find the ‘Wicked Questions‘ using the starter “How is it that we are … and we are … simultaneously?” – moving the question to an ‘and’ that includes both. ‘Integrated Autonomy‘ is a more in depth way to help a group move from either-or conflicts to both-and strategies and solutions.

(NB: Convergent Facilitation is the most effective way i know currently to find a way forward when there are a lot of different perspectives and needs to take into consideration.)

I also love the ‘Conversation Cafe‘ (and similar formats) to build trust, reduce fear and make sense of complex, difficult or painful situations.

There is so much here to explore! If you are interested to try out using Liberating Structures with your group or community, browse or get in touch if you would like support.

Kingian Nonviolence – Accept Suffering without retaliation, for the Sake of the Cause to Achieve the Goal

This is one of the most challenging principles for many, and asks deep questions of us – who is suffering, what are we choosing to take in and close off from, where are people suffering involuntarily, and where might we be willing to voluntarily accept suffering in order to be an ally and support others?

Through the 50 days for peace course, we explored several questions…

  • Who is bearing the bulk of the suffering for unjust systems in our communities?
  • How can we support systemic injustice being seen and attended to?
  • What do you love more than retaliation?
  • Where might you be willing to accept suffering voluntarily in order to reduce harm?

With so much in our culture based on judgement and blame, it can be easy to fall into guilt and feeling ‘not enough’. This principle asks us to re-centre those who are being impacted, be really conscious about what we let in and keep out, and without giving up care for our own capacity and limits. We also explored the resources, training and community support it takes to accept suffering in some of the ways people have been called to, and also all of the ways we can support people who are willing to make sacrifices.

Can we find the courage and capacity to take in the involuntary suffering of others, within our limits? How can we resource ourselves to do this? And centring their experience, is there some action we can take that might reduce harm?

If you are open to it, you could listen to this recording from a US customs and border protection facility, sensing into the suffering of all those voices in the recordings, and in yourself.

Next up: Avoid internal violence of the spirit, as well as external violence >

Where we are and Vision

I have a recurring question lately… how can we both start where we are, rooted in current experience AND create conditions for imagining a new paradigm, open to a radically different vision?

I spend time in spaces that focus on current situations, and spaces that are imagining the new, and I often wonder where and how the two might meet, might influence each other. How do we imagine and create a new world beyond current structures and limitations, without disconnecting from the ground, seeming out of touch with people’s everyday reality?

A friend shared a practice with me from a Scottish innovation space that has something to offer this called ‘Standing in the land in between’* – spending time seeing where we really are, spending time imagining something new, and then standing in between and seeing what emerges. (*I think this is the right name – I’ve not yet managed to find a link.)

This leads me to reflect on how this happens inside of me – the past, present and imagination of future possibilities is all here now, in the present. Sometimes imagining a different future can be an inspiration and guide to new possibilities, and sometimes it is a way I avoid seeing reality, feeling the pain and mourning what’s not working.

I can imagine this mirrored in social change work too. How can we open to reimagine a world where all needs matter, where all life can thrive, without avoiding what’s here now, the suffering and the grief and the joy and the care?

I see what ULab/TheoryU can bring to this – seeing the present in ever expanding awareness, from other perspectives, inspired by what others are doing… and then pausing in all of that, feeling and sensing what is here, and listening for the new emerging. We are experimenting with this through GM Transformation Lab, and I’m longing to be in more diverse groups to explore.

Where do you see great work being done in the ‘what’s here now’ and deep imagining of ‘what could be’, and where and how do you see them coming together?

I sense new possibilities emerging from the space between, and would love to hear the questions stirring in you.

Roots and vision

Kingian Nonviolence – Attack forces of evil not people doing evil

This weeks principle may take some unpacking for many of us, maybe especially for those committed to nonviolence who might have rejected ideas of evil and hear ‘attack’ as violent. I’m grateful for the encouragement to start where I am and explore my current felt sense and ideas around these words…

For me ‘evil’ is tied up with the idea of ‘bad intention’. As I grew up the focus was on naming (and sometimes shaming) the intention behind an action, and on admitting my actions were ‘bad’, rather than focus on hearing the impact. For some of us the word ‘evil’ brings up concepts of fixed right and wrong, of bad actions and bad people, and associations with religion and authority.

Similarly while in ‘attack’ there could be ideas of violence, there is also a strength and conviction, with the object of this being the forces (structures, beliefs, systems, habits), and not people. This is an active and proactive strength, finding the energy and courage to do the work that needs to be done to reduce harm.

Something like “dismantle and upgrade systems and institutions doing harm, rather than blaming individuals” lands more easily in me in this moment. AND there still seems something valuable about inquiring into my relationship to these words, maybe reclaiming them with a new understanding. As I think about systems and beliefs that lead to harm, systems that really don’t meet the needs of many, and that actively oppress, might that be a new understanding of ‘forces of evil’?

I loved Roxy and Cathy’s unpacking of this idea during 50 days for peace, at the same time as encouraging people to find the words that resonate for them, and allow others to choose differently. And so from there, in words that speak to you, how you might complete this sentence?

I want to find the strength to attack forces that [do what] by [how].

Some things coming up for me…

  • “I want to find the strength to dismantle systems and structures that threaten our shared conditions for life, by reimagining ways forward where all can thrive.”
  • I want to find the strength to challenge and dissolve ideas of fixed right and wrong, by supporting groups to connect to their needs and find more creative solutions.”

As we each focus our attention on what matters most to us, bringing the skills and strengths we have, something new and more attuned to needs seems more likely to emerge.

Community and accompaniment

All of this is a lot to ask, especially for those recovering from trauma or still facing oppression and violence. Another key concept from this week is to understand the need for support and resourcing ourselves for the fight . We need to find accompaniment – develop our own capacity to accompany ourselves, and to seek support. We need to find community – to lean on each other and know that we will all have different capacity to show up in different ways at different times. We need to find what resources us – coming from gratitude, time in nature, time to rest, music, friendships, pets, touch, whatever helps us reconnect and recover.

Personal and systemic

I’m so grateful too for reminders to notice both systemic and personal layers in this. There can be a tendency for some of us to focus on the personal (especially with an NVC lens), and miss the systemic. If a person is talking about pain related to the systemic, there might also be personal pain, but to go only to the personal can be painful, and also not feel safe if there is not consent.

I remember several times in working in homelessness partnerships people who had experienced homelessness talking about the injustice around housing and support, and anger around how people are treated for not being in work, and sometimes the focus has gone to their personal circumstances. I’m grateful for this clarity, to discern the personal and systemic, and be aware of the level someone is speaking at – an edge which I am still learning to work with.

Systemic change

In this intersection between the personal and systemic there is opportunity. Systems are created and maintained by repeated behaviours (including compliance and silence), and systems are changed by new behaviours. So what might nonviolent action that changes systems look like in the contexts we are in?

Kathleen brought in research by Erica Chenoweth and Maria J Stephan that points to the success of nonviolent resistance, and some of the attributes needed…

  • A large and diverse population of participants sustained over time
  • Capacity to create loyalty shifts in groups that support current systems/institutions
  • Creative imaginative methods of resistance
  • Organisational discipline to face direct repression without going to violence or collapse

There is much to unpack in all of this, and I’d love to spend more time pondering all of this with others as we head into whatever comes next.

Up next – Principle 4: Accept Suffering without Retaliation for the Sake of the Cause to Achieve the Goal >