I support people to navigate conflicts, whether within an organisation or community, with family or friends, or with an internal conflict.

Being in conflict can feel really painful, complex and overwhelming. Often there is not much capacity to process all the impacts, repair harm and restore trust. Without support, things can escalate, or dialogue can break down completely.

In most situations, the first step is to create space for each person involved to process what has happened, and get clear what they need in order to move forward. If those involved want to meet, we set up a space that supports people to hear each other, find more understanding, acknowledge the impact of what has happened, and agree next steps.

“Viv has an incredible intuition for what people need – whether that’s space to speak, time to process, or just someone to sit with difficult emotions alongside them. She doesn’t shy away from what’s hard and instead creates a space where feelings can be acknowledged and worked through. Viv’s ability to hold space for people and guide them toward resolution with care and respect is remarkable.” – Mediation client

I bring in different restorative approaches depending on the context and people involved including Conflict Coaching, NVC Mediation, Restorative Circles, Deep Democracy and Restorative Justice.

While conflict can have a big impact on people’s lives, there is also potential for more understanding, deeper self connection and better relationships. Some of us want to avoid conflict and return to some sense of peace as quickly as possible. Others of us want to have the fight and have a chance to defend ourselves and see others punished. Often there is not enough trust or capacity between those involved to step towards each other in a way that allows for transformation. Having some support to navigate all of this can make a huge difference to the lives of those impacted.

I have seen the transformation that is possible both in individuals and in relationships when we are able to ‘sit in the fire’ together. It takes curiosity, compassion and courage to say what needs to be said, hear what needs to be heard, feel what needs to be felt, and be open to new possibilities.

If you would like to know more or want support to move through conflict, please get in touch.